Dating sites and privacy
You had a safe buffer from rejection because you didn’t actually know the person: You weren’t dealing with a “real” human, but rather a picture and maybe some text.
But the more people use online dating sites and apps, the more likely you are to run into someone that you, or at least a friend, recognizes—and you’re more likely to be recognized in turn.
Wudan, a 25-year-old in New York, said she tends to swipe left on Tinder when she sees someone she knows. I don’t want to go on a date with anyone who knows anything about me,” she said.
This rule has not spared her from uncomfortable encounters. ’ I had seen him and lied and said ‘LOL, not yet.’”However, others said that running into old classmates from college or high school can be awkward or potentially a fun way to reconnect platonically.“If I knew someone, I would automatically swipe right, even if I wasn’t interested in dating them.
Other apps don’t let you scan the area, so to speak, but they have their own ways to block unwanted contact—to a degree.
“You can also turn off the ability to be seen or match with Facebook friends,” said David Yarus, the founder of JSwipe, in an online exchange, but noted the desire to block hasn’t been an issue as far as he know.
“In a city of 8 million people, you’re bound to run into your ex-wife,” Harry Burns (Billy Crystal) says in 1989’s When Harry Met Sally.
Rosette Pambakian, Tinder’s VP of corporate communications and branding, also said the company hasn’t “received any complaints” about people running into unwanted potential matches.
The first will allow a user to hide their profile from all users by default, and to only be seen by people they actively ‘Like’ or send a message to.
The second will give the user an option of using a connected Facebook account to block any of their friends that are also on Ok Cupid.” Until those features arrive, though, users will have to navigate the potentially choppy waters of real-life recognition.
“I was just like, ‘Oh, they’re there,’” he said and swiftly blocked him from his grid of options.
Grindr shows your range of potential matches in a geographical region, which the user sets, and you can also bar users from seeing you, explained a Grindr press representative. You can hit an “unblock all” later if you want, but once they’re blocked they will not see you,” he told The Daily Beast.
A few months ago, I was swiping through my batch of potential matches on various dating apps.